Title: You fall in love because of your brain not your heart.... so stop using your heart to explain bullshit!

Hey World,

While your broke I do believe in the phrase "99 problems but a bitch ain't one" should be your priority. However, I do know that we all need a lil' loving at times. And like each cliche person would say, to you " to really love someone, you need to start with yourself".
Firstly, figure out what you would want in a relationship and just try to give that to another person. When you couple that first sentence with always being respectful to your partner, you are halfway there to a perfect relationship already. No, they might not want all the flowers you require in a relationship but you can interpret your need by finding out what material things they like and offering it to them ever so often. Example, he loves cars so you figure out where the next car show is and you go with him.
I do realize that after a hard day of pounding the pavement, looking at bills, and smiling at bosses you can't stand, broke people wanna come home to someone who we love and love us back. Adult lovin'.
I often find myself giving relationship advice in my regular non-blogging life so I thought, hey why not do that here as well. The biggest problem I see when talking to my single guys and gals is that they over-analyze the simplest things. In fact, if we got out of our heads a little bit more we would actually be able to see the people checking us out.

While you complain about being single, these are the things you are most likely doing;

Fail to make eye contact
Talk as if we already have a mate
Act insecure
Act like we know everything/overconfident
Seem to have a problem smiling at people we actually like
Seem to have a problem striking conversations with people that we actually like
Are quick to ignore people/ Judgemental

So you may ask, well broke girl, what do I do now? Answer: Address your damn issues duh!

Stop pretending you're okay with the way things are going when you know your not. And stop having pity parties for yourself because that shit could turn off a cow. What you need to be doing is address the root of your issue (might be more deeply rooted than you think) and change your issue for the better. Even if you get diarrhea from just making eye contact with a guy (because of your weight issues),... do it already and run to the toilet. We all gotta start somewhere.

Figure out your 3 non-negotiable things; example -

Must have good relationship with parents
Must be my religion
Must be adventurous

(Make sure these are YOUR nonnegotiable things, not your family or friends etc.) Have faith in yourself.

Now, what you have to do is meet as much guys as possible whether it be online profiles, blind dates and trips to the grocery store etc. You want the odds to be in your favour, obviously. If you do meet a really great guy in your opinion and he is missing 1 or more of your non-negotiable attributes, you need to go back to the drawing board and figure out why these things were nonnegotiables for you in the first place and is it necessarily for you in the long term.
Answer those questions as honest as possible because it will let you know what you need to do moving forward.
Yes, its just that simple you just need to grow some balls. He/She may change your mind on what non-negotiable you should have after all or you may just realize that in the long term and core of things you won't be able to live without these nonnegotiable things.
 It's better that you go hit up your drawing board right at the beginning of the relationship because these things will creep up into your relationship when more time passes and hurt a lot more. Better said, 'if you don't deal with it from the beginning it will kick you in your heart in the end'.
And...
NEVER GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP THINKING YOU WILL CHANGE SOMEONE. Of-course you hope to and probably will grow together; but the fact is even if that person changes for you, they may resent you and if they don't change what happens next? Don't stick yourself in that stupid situation or cop out of being strong by saying bullshit lines like the heart wants what it wants.

You fall in love because of your brain not your heart.... so stop using your heart to explain bullshit!

And lastly, if you want your relationship to last, always give it 100%. That way if it ends you know you did your best. It's important to give your best in relationships, no relationship prospers with lazy partners, like the guy from project runway says, "Make it Work".
P.S. giving your relationship 100% doesn't mean giving up who you are as a person but knowing who you want to be in a relationship and who you want to be with in a relationship from the get go. 

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