Title: 10 Things no one tells you about Germany

P.S. Hey World!

1. There is no such thing as public toilets which means that unless you are at an event or inside a restaurant you will have to PAY TO USE THE TOILET, this also goes for gas stations..

2. Words are way too long but when you really take them in, its actually two words put together for a certain purpose like to have the word Street "Strasse" attached to it  or School "Schule"

3. Places may not have the name you thought it had because there is actually a German version and an English version (maybe its the same for other languages but I am an English speaker), so ex. Munich is actually Munchen which is a lot harder to say that it looks because that U is actually hard it has two dots at the top

4. Germany or Deustchland as they would call it actually has a couple different states. In Bavaria which is where I am staying boast itself of not only being home of the best cars in the world but having a different kind of German which has different words and saying such as GusGod instead of the Hallo and Savos instead of the normal Chus. My spelling may bit off, but my point is when you come to Germany with your learnt German from school you have to be aware of the different dialects.

5. Just because a word looks like something you should be able to pronounce that doesn't mean it is. W is pronouced as Vey and V is pronounced as Fow or something like that.

6. They don't have police roaming the highways and streets catching these fast drivers who do not obey the speed limits they just have cameras everywhere just waiting to snap a pic of you and send you your speeding ticket via post. In fact, I'v hardly seen police outside of their cars but then again I haven't been to Oktoberfest yet.

7. They are much smarter than you think so they pull out statistics and geographic information that you don't know without checking google like what is the population of your city and how many kilometres is it. Speaking of their English is usually pretty good.

8. Which brings me to another point they talk distance in measurement like how many metres or kilometres is that place to that place and they seem to know it quite acurately. The fact is most Canadians will say it about two hours away etc. and actually have no clue about the kilometres or metres.

9. There is a beer culture, okay so if you know anything about Germany that was is not a surprise but did you know there are certain rules to the beer drinking? like in the morning you have this and you have this bear and that together. Personally I am not a beer lover so they have this great thing called Radtler which is like a lemon light beer..like a half and half

10. The Street lights are a little confusing instead of being above the road it is actually on the sides. When driving on the Auto Ban  espcially in Lower Saxony the speed limits change drastically I think to give you a ticket. So example no speed limit then all of a sudden it drops to a 100 keep in mind people such as my boyfriend drive 230 often so getting of that grove can be confusing for some especially if there is no construction on the road.

Hope you enjoyed it! 

Title: Having Feminist Ideal and being a Lady is fucking confusing but Fuck it we can do it!

Hey World,

I know its been a while since you heard from me but don't fear I am still a broke girl with lots of opinions. Just think of it like I took a summer hiatus...Anyhow as you may or may not know I have now moved to Germany to be with my lover. I always said I wanted to live in Europe and here I am living that life ...I feel so blessed...However, there's still shit that goes down in life that just pisses a broke girl of like having to ask your man for money so you can buy a snack but he says no because its his agenda to have you skinny so you starve a skinny girl's death!...that one is personal lol. Life has its hurdles that's for sure so that's why it is soo important to be goal oriented atleast I feel that way. You have to think of the big picture because the little picture sometimes sucks to much. I mean I am being negative.. life is okay I got a job no its not the BEST job in the world but I have to say its something I enjoy doing, I am finally living with my lover and I am soooo happy for that. Life has a way of throwing shit at you as if to see how much shit you can really take so when you get a moment of achievement basks in all of its glory...I say fuck humility...Basks in it cuz we just don't know how long it will last for.

One of the new things I am adjusting to is living somewhere where I am the lady of the house. And the feminist in me is mad and ashamed. You go though university at least I did thinking I will be the change I hate being expected to cook and clean but there I go wanting to marry someone from that exact culture. And it is as if I should be ashamed that I dont iron my boyfriend's shirt every time. And the idiot in me,  feels ashamed for it..
Man that is nothing to be ashamed about. Ladies you are the lady of the house because you have a vagina and that is all that should be expected of you. Yes, to have a vagina that's why society says your a lady so you conform and then you say that's mutha fuckin it! ..But there is this mind fuckin' dilemma you wanna be a good partner.

You should want to be a good partner and make the other person happy and of-course make yourself happy..But lets face it, if you want to have a successful and happy relationship you can't be selfish. You know I am going to sound real bad when I say this but for most of my life I have been a proud selfish person. I saw no fault in it I mean in some ways I still don't see fault in it... Let's keep it real this is my blog and I share my opinions. When I was in the 7th grade my teacher said one sentence to me that I never forgot..oh yes I forgot everything else I learnt but this one thing he said I will never forget.

He said "If you want to be successful in life you must think of yourself first". I often get mad at myself if I do something that is not alright with me. You have to love yourself first in order to love other people "Oprah said that line". Being selfish has served me well for most of my life, it has allowed me to cut out the bad in life with ease it has allowed me to treat myself well, it has allowed me to have confidence in my own thoughts and opinions and it has allowed me to say fuck the world anytime they tried to dictate what I could and could not do. And ain't NOONE taking that selfish behavior away from me!

But filling the role of a healthy partner in a successful relationship has also taught me a thing or two about selflessness. Oh yes, selflessness. Now old broke girl would of said fuck that bullshit but hey you grow in different ways. Sometimes you just gotta give in and compromise. I think this is something I still struggle with which sometimes makes me a difficult partner. As a person with some feminist ideals this also causes some confusion and self conflict. Why the hell should I feel ashamed that I am not good at fullfilling  my specific gender role expectation? I should feel so ashamed that I am not the best cook and I think ironing clothes are for dummies when the dryer works just fine. I would understand if you said I was a lazy person but no it's not that I am a person it's even worse I am a lazy woman. UGH how dare you be a woman who can't cook only men are allowed those privileges of life. You should basically go somewhere and drown yourself if you are a woman who doesn't like to cook, clean, do laundry and iron shit..I just want to say fuck I am a full woman, I have the right amount of chromozones and the vagina to prove it!

But again, women even if you are like me and you have this personal battle within yourself. Don't be a fuckin' mess. Be your best...try your best to be a good partner. Be a team... fuck being a gendered woman machine. But work for your team. That sometimes means you gotta cook, clean and do laundry, have pride in knowing your a good teammate. Anytime you feel like your being a good servant say Fuck U to your partner!